How do you create trust in love, Belgian guys?
I have been living in Belgium for some years; being in two relationships. Yet none of them turned out serious. I dont know why the values of us didnt match. May you, Western men, tell me how you love? Below is my story.
I am an Asian woman.
When the relationships came to the moment that we can discuss about future for both, we presented our belief in the values of family life; having children or not; how to share finance responsibilities; and how to manage the living-together life.
Accordingly, I said:
=>I am monogamous.
=> When I am in love, I treat the partner under the friendship-based relationshop: loyal and respectful.
=> I care for the little family and the extended family as it should be.
I asked them about their believes in a shared life. We compared whether we think similar. They had as much time as they need to think whether to commit with me or not.
At the end of the day, they said they like the values I presented. I am the woman they have been looking for.
Short later (two months or 1 year maximum), they said reasons to break up:
=> He wanted to come back to previous lover;
=> He found that I do not plan to live with him;
=> He found somebody that are more suitable;
=> He blamed me for the change in his mind;
Ironingly enough, he usually prepared for his next move before revealing the breakup plan.
I showed them the evidences or situations showing that I have not done anything wrong as they blamed. I have been doing everything for the good shared life.
The toxic breakup left me in great supprise! There was nothing as we have agreed with each other! I felt I had been cheated! I asked them what do the itinal discussion mean to his decision being in relationshop with me. No answer! They left me with silience.
I feel lost! Pershaps I do not understand western men enough and their cultrue in love.
Can you please tell where I am wrong? Can you tell how I can trust or build trust in love with western men?